Some people trivialize depression (often unintentionally) by dropping a platitude on a depressed person as if that is the one thing they needed to hear. While some of these thoughts have been helpful to some people (for example, some find that praying is very helpful), the context in which they are often said mitigates any intended benefit to the hearer. Platitudes don't cure depression.
Here is the list from contributors to a.s.d.:
0. "What's *your* problem?"
1. "Will you stop that constant whining? What makes you think that anyone cares?"
2. "Have you gotten tired yet of all this me-me-me stuff?"
3. "You just need to give yourself a kick in the rear."
4. "But it's all in your mind."
5. "I thought you were stronger than that."
6. "No one ever said life was fair."
7. "As you get stronger you won't have to wallow in it as much."
8. "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps."
9. "Do you feel better now?"(Usually said following a five minute conversation in which the speaker has asked me "what's wrong?" and "would you like to talk about it?" with the best of intentions, but absolutely no under-standing of depression as anything but an irrational sadness.)
10. "Why don't you just grow up?"
11. "Stop feeling sorry for yourself."
12. "There are a lot of people worse off than you?"
13. "You have it so good, why aren't you happy?"
14. "It's a beautiful day!"
15. "You have so many things to be thankful for, why are you depressed!"
16. "What do you have to be depressed about".
17. "Happiness is a choice"
18. "You think *you've* got problems..."
19. "Well at least it's not that bad."
20. "Maybe you should take vitamins for your stress."
21. "There is always somebody worse off than you are."
22. "Lighten up!"
23. "You should get off all those pills."
24. "You are what you think."
25. "Cheer up!"
26. "You're always feeling sorry for yourself."
27. "Why can't you just be normal?"
28. "Things aren't *that* bad, are they?"
29. "Have you been praying/reading the Bible?"
30. "You need to get out more."
31. "We have to get together some time." [Yeah, right!]
32. "Get a grip!"
33. "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
34. "Take a hot bath. That's what I always do when I'm upset."
35. "Well, everyone gets depressed sometimes!"
36. "Get a job!"
37. "Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone."
38. "You don't *look* depressed!"
39. "You're so selfish!"
40. "You never think of anyone but yourself."
41. "You're just looking for attention."
42. "Have you got PMS?"
43. "You'll be a better person because of it!"
44. "Everybody has a bad day now and then."
45. "You should buy nicer clothes to wear."
46. "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."
47. "Why don't you smile more?"
48. "A person your age should be having the time of your life."
49. "The only one you're hurting is yourself."
50. "You can do anything you want if you just set your mind to it."
51. "This is a place of BUSINESS, not a HOSPITAL"; after confiding to supervisor about my depression
52. "Depression is a symptom of your sin against God."
53. "You brought it on yourself"
54. "You can make the choice for depression and its effects, or against depression, it's all in YOUR hands."
55. "Get off your rear and do something." -or- "Just do it!"
56. "Why should I care?"
57. "Snap out of it, will you?"
58. "You *want* to feel this way."
59. "You have no reason to feel this way."
60. "Its your own fault."
61. "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
62. "You're always worried about *your* problems."
63. "Your problems aren't that big."
64. "What are you worried about? You should be fine."
65. "Just don't think about it."
66. "Go Away."
67. "You don't have the ability to do it."
68. "Just wait a few weeks, it'll be over soon."
69. "Go out and have some fun!"
70. "You're making me depressed as well..."
71. "I just want to help you."
72. "The world out there is not that bad..."
73. "Just try a little harder!"
74. "Believe me, I know how you feel. I was depressed once for several days."
75. "You need a boy/girl-friend."
76. "You need a hobby."
77. "Just pull yourself together"
78. "You'd feel better if you went to church"
79. "I think your depression is a way of punishing us." ---My mother
80. "Sh*t or get off the pot."
81. "So, you're depressed. Aren't you always?"
82. "What you need is some real tragedy in your life to give you perspective."
83. "You're a writer, aren't you? Just think of all the good material you're getting out of this."
84. This one is best executed with an evangelical-style handshake, i.e. one of my hands is imprisoned by two belonging to a beefy person who thinks he has a lot more charisma than I do: "Our thoughts and prayers are with you." This has actually happened to me. Bitten-back response: "Who are 'our'? And don't do me any favors, schmuck."
85. "Have you tried camomile tea?"
86. "So, you're depressed. Aren't you always?"
87. "You will be ok, just hang in there, it will pass." "This too shall pass." - Ann Landers
88. "Oh, perk up!"
89. "Try not being so depressed."
90. "Quit whining. Go out and help people and you won't have time to brood..."
91. "Go out and get some fresh air... that always makes me feel better."
92. "You have to take up your bed and carry on."
93. "Why don't you give up going to these quacks (ie doctors) and throw out those pills, then you'll feel better."
94. "Well, we all have our cross to bear."
95. "You should join band or chorus or something. That way you won't be thinking about yourself so much."
96. "You change your mind."
97. "You're useless."
98. "Nobody is responsible for your depression."
99. "You don't like feeling that way? So, change it."
Version 1.7 April 29, 1995
Posted: Feb 14, 2009
i think if we had a righteous partner in life, things would feel better. when things arent righteous-it feels like shit
— sues
Things will get better. Yea right 34 years latter no change. This statement, “things will get better” is the worst I know and I have heard lots.
— Dennis
“You’re a handsome guy…you could get any girl you want…how can you be depressed?” – Said to me, straight male with depression.
Another favorite of mine is when they tell me something like “I started out with ten dollars in the bank, and now I have $$$$. I’m proof that it can be done!” (as if depression comes from lack of possessions)
— yoda
Years ago I got from my mom a nice “I’d be depressed too with the stuff that happens to me, but I can’t afford to be depressed” I still wonder…can I? She said it like it was a luxury to afford being depressed…living depressed…if you can call it a living, that is.
Still haunts me…years and years after, now that I’m very depressed again…I can only hear her and it makes me feel so lonely!
— Jor
I probably said a half of those things to my sister. I hate myself for that now. Of course my cousins aren’t helping at all. Sometimes I want to scream “Who the hell are you to judge when you won’t even move your fat-ass!”.
— Daisy
I get fed up with the expectations. All the shoulds tht everyone has. “You should workout more” or “you should try eating better” how about the famous “why aren’t you doing better, you’re so smart and creative, you should be better than this” “you shouldn’t isolate yourself”
I know what I should and should not do. Kowing isn’t the problem. Knowing how is sometimes a differen story. Don’t tell me what to do, just tell me you love me, be there when I want to talk and don’t judge me if I don’t want to.
Don’t try t solve it, it’s something that I have to do for me, and don’t act like I’m crazy becsaue this is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with in my life and if you can’t uderstand that then what right do you really have in telling me what I should or should nt do?
— Nicole
“The world doesn’t revolve around you.” My mum said this. I said the same thing back to her and she said “actually it does!”
— Alex
“Its all in your head, I went through the same thing, you’ll just get out of it” etc
“I know you, you wouldn’t hurt yourself so stop talking about it”
“Your spoiled.”
— Brian
Friends are great, aren’t they? Another thing I hate is when they go and make it all about themselves. Like starting a long discussion about all the good things in THEIR lives, like they’re giving me a recipe. Or when they’re giving me advice they would never DREAM of doing themselves (I say you should go ahead and flirt with that cute guy two blocks away from you – Ok, WHAT? )
— Alicia M.
“Oh, for once I was actually in a good mood and you had to go and spoil it for me! Thank you, now I feel like shit, too! “
“Okay, so you’re unhappy. Did you even TRY to do something about it, instead of staying there, pitying yourself? “
“You have this destructive tendency to make others feel bad”
“I don’t dislike you, I just hate the way you think! “
“If you don’t manifest all of your deep and profound feelings they’re useless anyway; so why bother with them when you’re ice-cold in the first place? “
“You are missing a crucial element in your life and there’s no nicer way of putting it. You need LOVE “
“I know this isn’t helping you at all, but … “
Then why the Hell are you saying it ?!
“Okay, now you just blocked me. Why would you say something like that? What are you implying with that remark? “ – after I started getting pissed at the reactions I was receiving.
— Alicia M.
“Okay…” terrible, long, long silence “so make an appointment in three weeks.”
— Kat
“but you were doing so well…”
said after obtaining a goal in life and then later falling depressed.
also said in a ‘why do you have to mess everything up’ way.
“don’t say that!” (I’m feeling depressed)
(from a healthcare professional)
have a good nights sleep (pointless, but extra frustrating when you also have insommnia)
— jay
I know, totally. I just read through the list and I realized that over half the list of stuff on that has been said to me. >_<
Of course, they only made me feel worse.
— Stephi
continued
and then they continue to ask what the problems in your life are that are so serious to cause this..
ugh, I could go on forever about things I’ve heard every single day from the people who apparently CARE, for the past YEARS.. the only way to avoid it is to lock myself in my room and turn off my phone and computer and sleep.
ANYWAYS I hope everyone here can somehow get out of their depression one day..and always know that you’re not alone..literally!!
— missconfusedd
“how do you expect to get better if you dont even TRY?“ – “friend”
“I hate life too and I don’t wanna wake up in the morning or go to work either” – mother
“It’s your fault” – father
“I don’t know what to say” – many people
“lazy!” – “friend”
“do you go to church?” – physician psychotherapist
“go to school and get your education”
“stop complaining”
“you’re so negative”
“there’s nothing even going on in your life!!!”
“go home and think about what can make you happy and come back in 2 weeks and tell me” – psychotherapist again..
“you need to eat better and exercise and you won’t be so tired” -“friend”
“eww you sleep so much” -“friend”
“I know how you feel…explains ther problems to make me think their life is worse so I should be happy
“you dont even have it THAT bad I don’t see why you’re depressed”
“pray and things will get better!!”- “friend”
— missconfusedd
“Well, everyone feels this way when they’re young. Being a teenager was never easy. You’ll grow out of it.”
— M
Your acting like such a baby?
Why are you crying?
— Stephanie
“You are crazy”
— ni
“well if you’re going to kill yourself, your going to kill yourself, nobody can stop you.” – best friend on hearing that I had been struggling with suicidal thoughts
“you should get a different doctor” “why haven’t you gone to a therapist?” “you shouldn’t be on medication” “you’ve been seeing that therapist for months, it’s clearly not working” “you shouldn’t be taking antidepressants” “have you talked to your doctor about increasing your dosage” “this is really hard on us, we never sleep at night because we’re sick with worry” “it’s because you’re not eating properly” “it’s because you’re not organized” “it’s because you don’t spend your money properly” “can’t you go on stress leave?”
“we’re not surprised. We’ve been observing patterns” a CBC boss.
“we had to pay for you to go see a psychiatrist for an appraisal. We had to pay for it” same boss.
“you’re selfish and a coward” – parents after reading in my journal that I was feeling suicidal.
— Jack
I tried to tell my parents how I feel the other day and my mum just said “your not depressed, your just fed-up”. It just made me feel so angry, like I was faking it or something.
— Anon
“You’re too bless to be stressed or depressed”
— Bethesda
Don’t be so silly and stupid – my parents after being discharged from hospital for an overdose attempt – jez way to make me feel better about myself
— Tracey
I agree, with all of you. and i feel for you. i hate being depressed… others think that we can just pull ourselves right out of it but, its just not that simple and no one understands that. i have only told two of my friends about my depression because i wouldnt be able to stand what any one else would say. my one friend who i have known for ever told me to “get over it, its all in ur head!” then rolled her eyes. my second friend is trying but i dont see her much, she says if i ever get that upset i can talk to her. but, what if i get so upset i attemp to kill myself? i wouldn’t go to anyone to stop me if i wanted to die. i am afraid of people’s reaction, so i have chosen to suffer in silence…
— SecretDepression
- “man up and quit sulking around” – “get back to work and quit complaining” – “you think i like hearing you complain all the time? I DON’T” – “be quiet and grab me a beer” – “what are you doing inside? get out in the sun and enjoy your life for once”
all said to me by my dad who tells his drinking buddies hes the best dad in the world
— cody
“I thought you were a strong person” (ex)
— Z
My brother’s friend, in response to his negative thinking and suicide attempt, suggested to him, “Have you ever considered that maybe it’s just your time?”
— Donna
Are all of us depressed. Watsup with this depression thing?? Is there no definite cure or is there not something we can do collectively as people who’ve been through it so we can help each other out.
— Tapiwa
“You worry too much!” is what my father always says to ‘cheer me up’.
— Martha
my personal favorite has to be ‘next time you want to kill yourself let me know and i’ll help’from my ‘lovely’ ex boyfriend that i’d dumped my actually lovely husband for
— K
“Just take it one day at a time.”
nice, considering i can barely “take it” one minute at a time…
— DF
These are little tidbits from people who know I’ve been suffering from depression for years…
`“Tell me what I can do to cheer you up”
`“We all love you”
`“I am just going to stop inviting you because you never come”
`“Where did I go wrong with you” – Mother
`“All you do is stay in your room. You need to go out more”
`“You’re not getting any younger… you need to start living your life”
— Joy (HA!)
It’s all about you. It’s always been all about you.
— HP
75. Who gives a fuck?! my life is harder than yours so quit complianing and go do your chores. – dad
Go tell someone else cause i dont have time. -mom
look, you’ve been dealing with this for how ling now? so just go take your pills and do what you always do to make yourself NORMAL again. – self proclaimed “best friend”
— JH
Said to me by mother
-Build a bridge and get over it – Just snap out of it you silly little girl
-Act your age, not your mentality.
-You’re not the only one wit problems.
-Take some panadol
Said to me by friends – This is the Devil’s doing. You stopped believing in God
-Go back to Church
-It is never as bas as you think it is, we don’t think its that bad. You are just pretending.
— Sares
20 Nov 2009
I’ve heard or thought most of the things posted… it’s been three years now…. no sign of respite.
From previous post: “But first, can’t you admit that part of you secretly wants to be this way?”
post 8,9 and 38
“You’ve always been moody.lazy.spoiled”
“Only you can get well. No one is going to do it for you.” (which is very true, but how?)
“maybe something bad – like a death, or illness or bankruptcy needs to happen in order to shock you into getting a job.” (I’m 25 never held a job – this was told to me by a “friend” who also suffers from depression but has to work)
— Su
“Don’t make excuses for yourself.” (Accompanied by an eye-roll.)
Said to me by my sibling when I was explaining why it’s hard to take care of myself when depressed.
— anonymous
“You are attracting negative energy, and the more you spend your time feeling bad, the more negative energy you’re going to get.”
— Carrie
“Isn’t socializing more fun than just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself?” – said to me by a psychiatrist I was seeking help from. The main reason why I decided to fake that I’m better and not visit her again, although as a student I get free “treatment” there.
“Just snap out of it already, will you?”, “You obviously want to be this way. I give up.” – my sister.
— undiagnosed
WOW, I CAN RELATE TO EVERY SINGLE THING SAID ON HERE, HEARD IT ALL…YEA PEOPLE ARE THERE..TILL THEY GET FED UP WITH YOU.
— KAREN
My boyfriend has actually been EXTREMELY supportive through my depression these past months (after reading some of these posts I’ve realized I better not take him for granted, no matter how “unloving” and disconnected I feel about him and everyone right now).
But I go NUTS when he asks “what’s wrong honey?” and when he keeps pressuring me to answer and talk. It’s like “I’m depressed. Everything’s wrong right now! It’s not one particular thing or event that has happened in the day. It’s LIFE right now”.
I should tell him that I know he loves me and cares…but it’s driving me fucking loony and makes me feel like I’m complaining when he asks a lot.
— N
From my Mum who prefers everyone else on the planet to me…
• You should think of others first and do things for them, that way you’ll stop thinking about yourself
• There are many people out there less fortunate than you
• You’re far too sensitive
• You need to change your attitude & stop being so negative
• Stop taking those pills – they won’t solve anything
• You should get out more & get a job (I work from home & earn a good living!)
— Caroline
“How long is this going to last?”
“Why are you depressed”
If I knew the answers…do you think I’d have this fuzzy smothering blanket of depression on me?
I’ve come to consider it a Zen type state of being…I don’t care, no one cares, just me and the big Guy in the Sky trudging through day by day…
— TS
Arrin: OMG, my dad says that all the time. It always worked to make me feel guilty…
Most of these are from him:
(angrily) “Do you have ANY JOY in your life?”
“I can’t even look at your face when you’re like this.”
“You’re using these pills as a crutch.” (WTF is wrong with crutches?! Also, even though most people use them for short periods to heal, others use them their whole lives, AND IT’S OKAY.)
Anything that is a “tough love” “scare you straight” type of thing.
“You aren’t contributing enough to this household. You just take and take.”
“I don’t buy this ‘depression’ idea. You’ve ALWAYS been like this.” (Yes! I have been depressed most of my life!)
“You don’t have any excuse for not coming out/visiting/calling/emailing!”
“But first, can’t you admit that part of you secretly wants to be this way?”
— softestbullet
“We all have our good days and bad days….”
— Marcia
-Why don’t you try smiling occasionally?
-Usually, you just kinda zombie through your day. It’s weird.
-You’re a very negative person.
-You just want to be one of those ‘things’. (My Dad, referring to anyone who suffers depression)
— Sammy
Get over yourself. The world doesn’t revolve around you. You’re no different.
— Kelly Waldorf
You’re a very smiley girl. I was always see you laughing and joking around with your friends. How can you say you’re depressed?
[They’re not my friends and it’s called faking it you dumbass.]
— Kelly Waldorf
After he told me he cares about me and lets talk about it, he told me to shut up.
From my loving boyfriend
My dad says things like “it’s always got to be about you doesn’t it” and “You need to get your priorities straight”
Nice things to say considering I just watched my mom die of cancer.
— Michelle
my personal favourite worst thing ever said was from a roommate in university.
“you know what you should do? go for a run. you’d feel so much better.”
i hadn’t been able to get out of bed (except to pee) for 3 days. she did apologise later for being insensitive.
— sarah g
I have a friend, who, when I talked to her about being depressed and suicidal, responded by telling me a list of the problems she was having with her boyfriend and how sad she was about it.
She didn’t seem too interested in what was going on with me…almost like one-upmanship.
The worst thing though is to say nothing, and not be available to someone at all, to not call back, to be absent as a friend if I try to reach out. That’s the worst rejection, and at the worst time.
— sal
“I don’t have room for this in my life.”
— Tricia
“Just do your homework. I know you can do it. Do it for me.” – The reason I’m not doing it is because I CAN’T. Got it?
“You need to sleep more, okay?”
“You need to eat.”
“How was your day?” – Honestly, pretty much everyday is the same, a struggle. But I have to lie and say that my day was ok.
And even though my bf says that he’s “always there for me to cheer me up” he always gets really upset when I try to talk to him about my depression and he just doesn’t get it. I feel so guilty for not being able to put myself 100% into our relationship, especially when he says things along the lines of what I said above.
Also my friend likes to continually ask me
“Why don’t you love me anymore?”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“Why are you always so tired?”
I don’t hate her, I’m just always too depressed to deal with her.
— belinda
“You just need to get off your @$$ and do something already!” – my boyfriend. I’ve been with him for over a year, and have struggled with depression for years, but managed to overcome it for a while, until a miscarriage six months ago triggered it. I haven’t been able to go out and socialize or work or be anything less than a burden to him since then.
“We’d like you better if you were less of a buzz-kill.” – some friends who ‘care’ about me. We were drinking, and he asked me why I was always so miserable. I told him it was because I felt worthless and insignificant. He took it to mean that I thought that THEY made me feel like that.
— Maddy
“I feel like this is my fault. What can I do?”
“It hurts me to see you like this.”
“I feel like a bad parent.” -All Mom
Things like that just add a massive amount of guilt on top of already being miserable.
Being asked, “Are you ok?” /all the time./ No, I am not okay. I want to die. Stop asking.
“Just eat. I don’t see what the big deal is.” -Brother (After I tried to explain I have zero appetite.)
— Hannah
upon learning that i have a family history of depression: “that doesn’t matter, its not genetic. depression isn’t a disease, it’s just a feeling” -my roommate
— kat
after i explained the symptoms of depression: “that just sounds like laziness” and “of course you’re gonna feel that way if you always think about unhappy things” also, upon learning that i have had extended periods of depression in the past: “well, you’ve had it before so you should be able to deal with it by now” -my roommate
— kat
I hate it when people say ‘you should be out socilising!’ or ‘you need to grow up and take responiability, you’re not a child anymore, you need to help out with the family!’ – I was fourteen at the time and have yet to forgive my dad. Mostly likly never will.
— Racheal
“You do it to yourself. You put yourself in the position to be hurt so it’s your fault. No one can feel bad for you because you ask for it. That pisses me off because you do it to yourself and then complain about it.” HELLO no SHIT, I need help, not your whinning…way to go “best-friend.”
— slap in the face
“You’re an emo kid, quit whinging”
“Go slit your wrists already”
“Go and exercise, you’ll feel better!” I hate that one, I can barely get out of bed, what makes you think I can walk a mile???
“You don’t really have depression, it’s your astrological sign” WTF? From my stupid ex.
“It’s because you’re a Criminal Justice major. You should have gone into Biotech.” What?
— Ki
I know you’re depressed, but what am I supposed to do about it? I’m just tired of hearing about it. Tell it to the doctor.
-Ano
— abbeylane
“I’m sick of looking at your sour face, pull your sock’s up would you”
“you need to get out more, it’s not healthy”
“your not making this easy for us”
“your making a real mess of yourself” when i get anxious i tend to pick at my skin
“have you got a job yet”
“you need to try harder, that’s your problem”
“try going for a walk”
“you look ill”
“if you struggle through this and others are managing maybe your just not good enough” struggling through my degree…
“you’ll get over it”
“be grateful for what you have”
“don’t lose anymore weight” I’ve dropped 15 kilo’s since christmas and i can’t help it, its sad no one can approach me and try to help they ignore anything is wrong with me it makes me so angry and i just take it out on myself, I just wanna scream! It helps by venting though.
All quotes spoken by my dad and step mum
— Ano
“You’re a basket case!”
and
“If it wasn’t for me they would have locked you in a padded cell.”
from my (now former) partner {:-(
who said I was bringing him down…
I’m better off alone than trying to please someone else
— justme
“I’m here for you”. That’s what my family and friend always say. When I want to talk I can’t find the words to express myself and everyone either gets real quiet or they immediately change the subject. Been to psychiatrist, counselers and clergy for the past 30 years. I have come to the conclusion that no one really cares. I go to bed and I pray that I won’t wake up and in the morning I realize that I am not even good enough for death, heaven or hell.
— Rosie
“It’s all in your head”
“you’re exaggerating, it’s not that bad. You’re wrong, I don’t want to listen to this anymore, I’m leaving. You’re psychotic”
“I knew what it was like to be in love before – I don’t know why you can’t be more like her. I actually liked being with her.”
“Do you know how much you look like your mother? She’s like 30 years older than you! Ugh!”
— Sh
My sister is a licensed neuropsychologist. During a depressive episode, she said to me to “Be Happy.” I know she was meaning to relay kind words, but I felt like clocking her. If she said “get well,” I would have appreciated it. “Be Happy?” From a licensed neuropsychologist? I love her, but I felt like calling for the revocation of her license!
— Jeff
“You’ve turned into a complete LOON!”
“You’re a train-wreck”
“All you do is complain, cry, and sleep, you don’t even have a life anymore!”
-these by a “supportive” boyfriend
“Do you know how guilty you are trying to make me feel?”
“All you need is exercise to get back to your ‘normal’ weight and you’ll be happy”
-Mom
— M
No one wants to be around that! – friend
You bring everyone else down.- friend
She got DEPRESSED because she lost her rabbit? (a “friend” laughing about another person’s depression)
I can’t tell anyone about my depression and I thought church would be the first place I could go. Sad.
— Liz
whats your problem?….your phsycho ,you need help , im not responsible for your depressions, why your crying ,grow up ,stop being selfish ,im leaving you ….if you do this again!and there is more ….saying by boyfriend
— jessica
“You know I’m here for you but I’m going to give up if you don’t snap out of it.” – friend
“You need chocolate” – friend
“You don’t need medicine, you just don’t have enough to do. Why don’t you get a job?” from my own mother who has bipolar disorder. Oh well…
— Coley
Try getting out and working in the yard, you’ll feel better (my mother).— I hated working in the yard before the depression.
Get up and get busy and you won’t have time to think about it (my mother).
Look at all the things you have to be happy about (my minister).
Just try thinking about other things (my mother).
This is all Satan’s doing (a friend).
You should get back in church and use the beautiful voice God gave you (same friend).
When I’m down, I just deal with it myself (my mother).
— Angie
I had thought mu husband went into my daughters room to tell her something but i was mistaken and when i asked him about it he asked me if i was a skitzo as well. wow is all i could say. —jenn
— jnatencio
“Why don’t you do anything?!” – Husband
“Why can’t you just get out of bed?!” – Husband
— Sad
You’re just not trying hard enough.
— Heather
I gave you so many beautiful things and you didn’t care..
— Arrin
“I know of someone who killed themselves, maybe you should try it”
Once that was said i instantly thought, “you know what, maybe i will.”
— Anon
my dad was dying. i was having melt down.minister brother told me to
suck it up— luci
It’s all in your head.. you choose to be this way.. you like to be miserable.. don’t you think everyone feels this way? This has all at one time been told to me by my husband.. and sometimes in my head I think.. I should slit my wrists or blow my brains out..then tell me all this again…
— Lori
Once my father wanted me to help him fill out a medical history form for his insurance at work.. I told him I was going to put a check next to Depression (mine) and he said, “No.” I said, “But I have Depression. I’ve taken medication for it.” (He knows this) He simply said, “No you haven’t.” It was like he was embarrassed so he had to deny it. I’ve never felt worse about myself.
— Sylvia
“I understand you’re depressed, but do you have any idea how hard you’re making this on me and our child?” My wife
— Mike
“everyone goes through that sometimes.”
“you think YOU have it bad.”
“why wont you just quit talking!”
“If you want i can run to the store and get you some candy.” [that has to be my favorite]
“is it the family? your friends? your boyfriend?”
“you just need better friends!”
these were all said to me today.
i get so mad.
— monica
“God never gives you more than you can handle”
we are just dealt cards in life…I would hope God doesn’t playout that I deserve the LOT in this life….
— Ilene
-Your like a d*mn robot(mom)
-I must have really screwed up with you(mom)
— CN
You’re an embaressment (My x wife said as she threw down a clay urn – I was unable to attend a dinner party cause I was severly depressed)
— mark
There’s a LOT of backstory behind this one, but suffice it to say I’m a former Christian, and deconverted in the last two years, but have suffered from undiagnosed (but disturbingly depressive) symptoms for far longer:
“If being an atheist is so great, why are you so depressed/want to kill yourself?”
— Kris
“I know that you’re depressed. But it drags me down and makes me not want to be around you when you get like this.” Told to me by my bf, after trying to explain to him that I don’t choose to be depressed. Another thing he says to me, after crying about nothing (to him anyway), “Do you have something you need to tell me?” which is his code for ‘Have you been cheating on me’
— Rowan
“Your problem is that you are a cup half empty sort of person.”
Friend
— lizzie
“why dont you smile” someone that doesnt even know me.
“why dont you talk much” the only words i heard this girl say in 2 hours
“little emo kid”
“i wish she’d drop dead” a friend to a friend about me
thnxx rhi sum friend u r
— soft
“You need to get over this because you’re dragging me down. It’s putting a strain on our relationship.”
— Sarah
It’s all in your mind.
You just like having the excuse to be lazy. (after I was signed off work as had panic attack in front of a class)
You don’t know what is you and what is the medication.
Really you should just smile more.
I’m sick of your stupid moping get out there and do something.
All my mum! lol helpful woman she is!!
— Sandry
“You just want people to feel sorry for you, that’s why you’re acting this way.”
— calvin
You are just making it worse by talking about it.
— trace
“It’s all in your hands.”
— someone
“Don’t tell anyone you’re taking pills. They’ll think you’re crazy.”
— Jan
My mum’s favorite thing to do is rip out the magazine inserts for new anti-depressants and bring them to me. “Look, Cymbalta! This sounds just like you!”
— koko
“what’s wrong with YOU?” – Often, from randomw strangers in the supermarket etc, in response to my anxiety.
— Katie
“So I guess the The sacrifice of Christ on the Cross and eternal life aren’t good enough for you?
— Wayne
11. “I’m tired of your b*llsh*t”, said by my ex before leaving me. All the others on the list, btw, I’ve heard from a ‘friend’, who wonders why I’m avoiding her. So go F-off yourself, to both of you, or go F each other, as I know you do now.
— neolanseth
your lazy and worthless , get off your ass , stop complaining and get a job so you wont have time to mope.
— craig
“what do you want me to do? Slash my wrists?!” from my bf when we were arguing after I told him that I didn’t believe him about something and he wanted to know how he could “prove” to me he was serious.
and “I don’t need this!!” I think he was referring to my depression.
— Leilani
“You’re looking too deep into this, stop putting yourself down even more. There are other ways to deal with depression then sit there and sulk. You’re not the girl that used to be my best friend. It’s like I don’t know you anymore.”
— Sarah
It is not my duty to be bothered by your illness. Do not poison me with your misery. (Last words from my ex-friend)
— Sadman
snap out of it man there are other people who are depressed to you know you just need to get a hobby or some thing and evry thing will be okay.
i wanted to punch him then after he said that
— matt
You’re more like your mother that way; your sister and I were always able to get over things and move on with life. Just don’t dwell on it. (spoken by my father)
— Julie
“well I don’t have that problem” – a “friend” who claims to “care very deeply and will always be there”
— Cyn
“I’m the one that has to listen to all of this, all the time. What do you have to be upset about?” – a “friend” who prides herself on “being there” for me.
— cookie
“it cant be as bad as you think it is” is that on here? my mom just said this to me. i am too depressed to read the whole thing
— mark
“You are taking your pills, arent you?”
— LV